ABOUT ME
My journey has shaped who I am today and has led me to become a counselor, which were relied on many self awareness from my past life experience. A life journey itself is often filled with mixed feeling including insecurity, worry, anger, happiness, jealousy, and satisfaction. The journey may be bumpy at times, but we can still find joy and love along the way.
#distanced feel while expatriation
When I work acrossBeijing, Guangdong, Singapore and Taipei, I felt distanced from the locals and even frommy hometown. Culture shocks made me homesick, but even after moving back, I found it difficultto feel a sense of familiarity and closeness. It was then that I realized that adjustment needs days or even years.
#learn to know one’s limit
When I started a small companyof my own, I went from feeling confident to feeling timid because I felt like I brought both my partners’ future and mine on a gambling table. Since then I changed from only focusing of myself to taking care others as well. However, I was stressed out becausethe new responsibility and perspective. After I realize my limitation, I feel relief because I can be accountable but not necessary take all responsibilities.
#adopt the imperfect me
When I made a sharp career shift from being promotion-driven to a full-time mother, the perspectiveof valuingmy sense of achievement changed completely. That was whenmy role changed butI wasn’t prepared and comfortable with.It was hard for me to accept my flaws and weakness in parenting because I thought it is easier than work. Afterwards, as a mother, instead of worry the future plan, I learn to enjoy moments at the present.
#integrate experiences into counseling
Having experience working in fields other than counseling allows me to look intoclient’s issue and also have diverse considerations like their background and life-span development. These experiences allowme to figure out people’s emotion changes with struggles, role adaptions, conflicts and stresses fromfull and dynamic view.
COUNSELING PHILOSOPHY
Many of us have heard the story about Sisyphus who keeps rolling an enormous stone up to hill only to have it fall back down, and he has to start over and over again. The story has become a metaphor for endless work. However, the action of repeatedly rolling a stone is very common among us when we pursue a goal we may even don’t know What and Why. We believe the goal is important and strive hard to attain it but we often forget to look into the driving force like our acceptance, worthiness and other hidden reasons.
The reason I bring up the story of Sisyphus is because it is closely related to the therapeutic orientation of Object Relations Theory that I utilize. Object Relations originally started fromresearches on interaction and reaction betweenbabies and their mothers, and it explains how interpersonal experience affects relationship development.
From the moment we are born, eachof us has been constantly establishing and maintaining relationships with "people" and "things". These people and things are known as “objects’ and individuals keep forming relationship with objects .
On top of orientation, I am open to exploring suitable and effective way for each my client. I start with deep empathy and therapeutic reflections. When the themes or intentions of sessions were discussed and decided, I facilitate clients to re-adjust undesirable object experience they came across in the past and loosen up their stereotypical thoughts in counseling progress. This helps to improving interpersonal relationships and avoid conflicts and troubles. Eventually, clients are able to find purpose and meaning, and true harmony in life.
EDUCATION
• Hsuan Chuang University
Master of Applied Psychology
• Strathclyde University, UK
MSc Tourism in Developing Countries
SPECIALTIES
• Stress adaptation and regulation
• Personal growth and confidence
• Interpersonal relationship
• Career development and readjustment
• Midlife crisis